Overcoming Fears the Alyssa-bilities Way

Did you know that fear is by far the strongest emotion anyone can ever feel?  It is even more powerful than the high vibration emotion of happiness that runs through the veins in my body on a daily basis. Why? You may be asking yourself. The explination is actually quite fascinating. The reason why fear is so powerful is because it can easily take over any other emotion in a blink of an eye without even realizing it. We aren't born with all of these different fears; instead we are born with love; but as we grow up and experience the wonders that the world has to offer we can easily develope the emotion of fear. With this being said, how does one overcome their fears and get back to the place of love?

In this blog, I am going to explain what fear means to me,  my experience with fear, why fears reappear in our life, and different ways we can overcome our fears.

Fear is No More Powerful than the Other Emotions; It all depends on How Much Energy You Give that Emotion.

Personally, I believe that fear is just another emotion. It really doesn't have any more power than the rest of the emotions like people were originally thinking. Yes, it may seem like it is more powerful; but it truly depends on how much energy we put on a certain emotion to determine just how much power that emotion really has over our life at any given moment. Everyone experiences these emotion changes on a daily basis; think about the emotion of feeling tired, we all experience this emotion whether it be in the morning when we get up due to not sleeping the best the night before, during the middle of the day as we do our daily routine, or even a few hours before it is an acceptable time to go to bed as we relax from the things we did that day; but then we do something to change that tired emotion by drinking a cup of coffee, going out in nature, or do a self Reiki session and that emotion of feeling tired no longer has that power over our life because we took that power away from it and gave it to the emotion of feeling refreshed. I for one know for a fact have experience moments like this one; but I have also experienced times when I let fear control a certain part of my life which ultimately caused me to miss out on some fun opportunities.

My Experience with Fear

 Going upside down on a rollercoaster

For as long as I can remember, I have always loved riding rollercoasters, it has been one of those activities that brings joy into my life when my family talks about going someplace that has rollercoasters because there is such a rush of excitement, is a place where the whole family can have fun together, and allows us to escape reality for a while; but there is just one tiny problem. I am terrified to go up side down on a rollercoaster. I don't know where I got that fear from; but every time my family decides to go on a rollercoaster that goes upside down I stand in front of the entrance to that rollercoaster trembling, shaking, and even get to the point of tearing up at the thought of going upsidedown as I stand there staring at rollercoaster carts speeding their way up through the track and up into a loop before disappearing out of sight to finnish the ride. I would say I stood there for at least a solid minute or so arguing with myself on whether I wanted to go on the ride or not before we walked to get in line. Once I got in line I continued my inward battle with myself as thoughts of everything that could go wrong popped in my head all the way through the line in which I chickened out at the last minute and stood at the exit while my family went on the rollercoaster. Multiple times they tried to talk me into it and told me that  they don't even notice when the rollercoaster goes upside down, but that didn't convince me. I did however go on an upside down rollercoaster once when I was younger when my family took a trip to Disney land and it was one of the only big rollercoaster in that particular park with it having one small loop around a sun that was used as a decoration for that rollercoaster. At least for this rollercoaster I talked myself into getting on the ride which I did; but by the time I started changing my mind, it was already too late as the rollercoaster speeded it's way up the beginning part of the rollercoaster in which everyone started screaming their heads off as the cart took us up high in the sky to where we could see the whole park before speeding our way down the hill into the loop and continued speeding our way through the rest of the ride while viewing the beautiful surroundings in and around the park. I was actually glad that I changed my mind too late because it was fun and I didn't even mind the one little loop because it was at the beginning of the ride with the rest of the ride being the type of rollercoaster I really enjoy. For people who haven't been on a rollercoaster that goes upside down, I felt when we went upside down which gives your stomach butterflies for a second, but are up right again really fast.The hard thing is though, is that not all rollercoaster that go upside down are going to be like this one with it having only one small loop through the whole ride.

 As of right now, I am still trying to get over my fear of going on upside down rollercoaster that has multiple parts where we go upside down within one ride of being on the rollercoaster.

Why do Fears Reappear in Our Life.

To me, fear is the ego's way of trying to keep us safe. With our mind being the the key to setting us free. When going on a spiritual journey we learn a lot of different things like how to heal ourselves, what happens after death, and different ways to improving our way of life, but I believe one of the biggest things we learn in spirituality is just how powerful our mind truly is and how what we say or think attracts situations into our life based on what we say, think, and choose to focus our energy on a daily basis. Going back to my fear of going upside down on a rollercoaster is a really good example for how powerful our mind can be at any given point in time. For so long I allowed my ego to take control of the experience by doing what ever it could to make that feeling of fear stronger within me of riding rollercoasters  that went upside down which caused me to miss out on so many opportunities that could have been fun if I had calmed my ego down. With this, I put more energy on being fearful of riding that type of rollercoaster which brought more of those rollercoaster in my experience rather than the type of rollercoasters I enjoy the most when going to different amusement parks. The thing is though, how do we overcome our fears?

Overcoming Fears the Alyssa-bilities Way

More recently, my family and I talked about planning a trip to Six Flags Over Georgia when the weather gets warmer, so we can spend as much time at the park as we want without getting too cold. This will be a fun outing for my family with it being 240 acres of rides, attractions, and of coarse rollercoasters to make up a total of 40 rides and attrations along with 12 rollercoasters that is spread across the park. The other day after we drove past Six Flags on the way home; I went to their website to see what all they havse to offer( as far as rides go) and discovered that almost all of the rollercoasters go upside down. This will be the ultimate challenge of overcoming my fear of going upside down multiple times; but I set the intention for myself that I will go on all the big rollercoaster, even the ones that go upside down. 

How I will Overcome this Fear?

Overcoming a fear is more challenging than people think. It is like one of those things that is easier said than done. Looking back at the times I didn't go on the upside down rollercoasters with my family I realized that I in a way judged the rollercoaster like someone would judge a book by it's covers. I would stand in front of the entrance to the rollercoaster watching as the people in the rollercoaster carts zip their way through the track and if any part of it seemed like it would be scary then I would decide right then if I was going to ride that rollercoaster or not. Now I have a plan for how I am going to keep my ego calm when we go to get in line for the rollercoasters at Six Flags. My idea of how to keep my ego calm includes;

• Taking a deep breath before and on the rollercoaster
• Looking at the rollercoaster from a different point of view where it will be fun instead of scary
• Trying it at least once before determining that I say I don't like it
• Reassuring my ego that I won't be in danger and it is a fun experience.
•  Reminding myself that thousands of people ride these type of rollercoasters each day and love them
• Having a mantra like this will be fun that I can say to myself to help keep my ego from trying to scare me out of going on the ride
• Make a list of everything that can go right by doing the thing your fearful of

This is my plan for how I am going to have the most fun with my family while at Six Flags Over Georgia. 

Conclusion

Fear is just another emotion that our ego uses to try to keep us safe in Life. Our time on earth is way too short to be left out of things because we are fearful of the activity or that something may or may not happen. Chances are that if we try something that we are fearful of that it won't be as bad as we made it out to be and will actually have fun. Once we go to Six Flags I will let you guys know how my plan worked and if I liked riding the upside down rollercoasters. As we go through this week though, I challenge everyone to think of one of their biggest fears and create a plan with things you will do to overcome your fear.