I love learning about mindfulness and mindset for so many reasons, but the biggest one is because it can easily be influenced by the words we speak each and every day. Everything we do in our day to day life is based on choices and that goes along with the situations we speak into our life. Think about it for a moment, if a person said"I am poor and can't afford anything" then what types of situations is he bringing into his life? More debt and hardship.
If he changed around his words and said: "I know that I found myself in this situation that I don't like, but if I work hard, be smart with my money, and save it, I will have an abundance of money for all my needs and wants." In the example, I gave you, the man changed the way he talked about his situation and can now work on believing that he too can have an abundance of money; which then will send a message to the universe telling them that he is willing to work towards changing his situation. The universe will then, send along situations of abundance, prosperity, freedom, and happiness into his life.
As I continue on this journey of personal development I am starting to realize that changing the way you say something not only can affect financial situations, but it can affect small ones like doing an activity. In this blog, I am going to share how saying things in a certain way has impacted my life, ways to change your mindset from negative thinking to positive thinking, and provide you with one of the many activities that I can do with one hand.
How Changing The Way I Speak In Situations Impacted My Life
One of the biggest things I can't stand is when people make excuses for why they can't do something, why they did something a certain way that didn't work out, and why they are in the situation they are in. To me, it is a sign that they don't trust or believe in themself enough to tell themself the truth, to do a certain activity, or even take responsibility for their actions, whatever the situation may be at the time. I very well could have used my disabilities as an excuse for many different situations I have been in, but that is nowhere close to the type of person I am. Instead, I am the type of person that doesn't make excuses in any situation I find myself in, I always tell the truth to myself and others, and I try new things all the time with a growth mindset. As a little kid, when I was in Elementary and Middle school was when changing around the way I said things really came into play. You see, I absolutely loved school, but I struggled very hard when it came to math. I would work with my teachers, do practice worksheets, and even did Khan Academy for a while, but nothing would stick. I remember sitting down with my mom to work on math lessons and end up crying and saying "I can't do it" because I didn't understand what my mom was trying to teach me. Then, at the beginning of 8th grade when we went in for back to school night I met the teacher who got me thinking in a totally different way. As the year went on, I still struggled with math, but it wasn't until one open office hour session when I sat down with her to work on a math assignment that we were working on in class when my eyes started tearing up right in front of her and I said yet again " I can't do it, I don't understand." She looked at me and said " you can do it, you just don't understand yet" and we kept working on the assignment taking it one problem after another. What she told me that day stuck with me ever since and I continued to repeat the words she told me, kept practicing, and started getting better math grades. By the end of my 8th-grade year, not only did I pass the class with a B+, gained my love for math, and overcame my biggest struggle; but I was surprised at the continuation ceremony when my math teacher picked me out of my whole 8th-grade class to be math student of the year.
Ways To Change The Way You Speak
Our mind is more powerful than we think. It is awesome how just with our minds we can do things like manifest different situations into our life, heal ourselves, and even have fun playing different mind games using our intuition. With this being said though how can you change your thinking pattern from negative to positive? Some of the things you can do include;
- Say three positive things about each negative thought
When we first started learning about mindfulness and mindset this was a big way that helped us identify when we were speaking negatively about something and then we would say three positive things about that situation to get rid of the negativity. This was a really good and effective way for my family to start speaking positively.
- Repeat a positive statement in your head multiple times
This was very helpful for me when I used to repeat the words that my math teacher told me. By constantly doing this when I worked on a challenging assignment helped me think positively, stay focused, and get the assignment done.
You Can Do Anything You Put Your Mind To...
Everyone has a motto, a sort of sentence or phrase that they live by, something that they turn to when they need guidance. For me, my motto has been " if you say you can't, then you won't; but if you say you can, then you will. The chose is yours." I have no clue who wrote this or how I heard of it, but it has been my motto since I was a little girl.
This is going to sound weird, but one of my top favorite activities is doing yard work. Recently my family and I landscaped our whole backyard which included several hours of pulling up weeds, moving yard furniture around, moving rocks out of the yard, laying down landscaping fabric, shoveling a wagon full of p gravel, wheeling it into the back yard, shoveling it out of the wagon, spreading it out, and repeating the process until we were finished with the pile of p gravel, then repeating the same process with two piles of mulch as we did with the p gravel. It was hard work, but you know what it was fun, challenging, gave us exercise, and turned out very pretty. While we were working on the yard, I started off by just holding down corners of the landscaping fabric and flattening the mulch down along both sides where the grass came up to the mulch on one side and the rocks that were put in by the builder to help with draining came up to the mulch on the other side. It was helpful to my parents and I was happy to help in that way, but it wasn't exactly the challenging type of work where you get a workout with moving from side to side as you do with moving rocks or bending over while moving around to pick up weeds that I really love to do. A little later in the day, after my dad brought back another wagon full of mulch and dumped it out of the wagon, so they could begin to spread it out, I took it upon myself to do some harder work. I looked at the empty wagon, then at the gate leading into the front yard, then back at the wagon again and said: "I can go shovel another load of mulch out of the truck while you guys are spreading it out." There was a moment of silence and then my mom looked up at me and asked "are you sure you can do it?" I looked at her with total confidence and said" I can do it" and picked up the handle to the wagon. Once I got the wagon lined up behind the bed of the truck, I picked up the shovel and began shoveling mulch from the back of the truck to the wagon. It was so much fun and it was the type of challenging work that I love doing. After filling the wagon up with mulch, I put down the shovel, picked up the handle to the wagon, and wheeled it into the back yard to get dumped. I repeated this process a few more loads feeling super happy being able to do something that got me working hard, gave me good exercise, and most of all closer to nature. At one point while I was deeply enjoying my shoveling duties, I didn't even realize my dad came back upfront until I heard a clicking sound and looked up to find him taking pictures of me. I continued working to finish the load I was on while my dad did his thing and took the load into the backyard where my mom was working on leveling the mulch out across the landscaping fabric. In the video, I am going to share with you, thanks to my dad who secretly took it while he was taking pictures😉, shows me finishing up one of the many loads that I shoveled all by my self. Out of all the videos I have done for you guys, this one is my favorite because it really captures a moment that shows what you can do when you put your mind to it, even when you have disabilities.
To Conclude
The mind is very powerful. The way you think, the way you act, and the way you speak really do have an impact on how you live your life. As you go out into the world this week, I want you to know that you are wonderful, smart, talented, and by believing in yourself; you can do more than you think in this world.
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